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Are you in a healthy relationship?

Written by Nkem Nwabunie

Every relationship is different and what is healthy for one couple is not necessarily healthy for another couple. However, there are a few traits that are generally considered healthy in a relationship.

Communication: Communication in key in any relationship. Couples have to be able to express themselves freely and with honesty. You should be able to tell your partner anything regardless of how awkward it is.  This helps build the trust and bond.

Fights: If you never argue with your partner, chances are you are holding back and keeping things bottled in. This could be harmful in the long run. The little arguments help prevent one huge argument that may terminate the relationship

Respect: Mutual respect is vital for a healthy relationship. You have to give your partner the respect she/he deserves. This comes in various forms. you have to respect your partners privacy, time, heart and trust. keep in mind that respect is reciprocal

Independence: It’s important to spend a lot go time together but it is just as independent to spend sometime apart. You have to know who you are outside your relationship. Have your individual hobbies, do not lose yourself in a relationship and become co-dependent.

Intimacy: A lot of people tend to think intimacy just means sex. This is false. Of course sex is a part of being intimate but it’s just that, a part. Friendship, bonding, emotional connection and a lot more are vital parts of intimacy

No Keeping Score: You have to learn to let things go in relationships. You can do something good for your partner without expecting something in return. Your partner will annoy you at some point but you don’t necessarily have to reciprocate. Letting things go makes it easier to be close without any resentment.

Choose Your Battles: This is perhaps one of the most important rules. Not every disagreement warrants a huge blowout.  You have to let some things slide and only really argue about the important issues. 

These are just a few of the necessities for a healthy and strong relationship. Remember that every couple is different and what works for one might not work for the another.

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