“Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.”
Often times, you start our endeavors with good intention – you want to lose 20 pounds, or start a new business, or get out of a nasty relationship. Whatever it is, you have good intentions to get to your goals. Then comes the rut. You start to feel discouraged – the results aren’t coming quick enough, people are being negative about your efforts, no motivation, etc. You know how the story goes. It’s like a vicious cycle. You get so frustrated that you stop doing what you’re supposed to do to make things work. So, you get comfortable. You don’t care anymore. But the truth is…you care! You’re wondering why you’re not doing anything to get to your goal. You’re bothered. You feel helpless. Sometimes, you actually get out of bed thinking: “Things are going to be good today. I’m going to start again today.” But as the day goes by, you’re back to your old pattern. Sound familiar?
We’ve got you.
What you need is a little bit of motivation. You know that you can do this if you put your mind to it.
Before bed, make a plan for the next day
When you create a plan for the next day, you actually have a goal to work towards. It’s even better if you write it down. Think about all the things you need to achieve the next day in order to get to your goals. Remember, one step at a time.
Find inspiration from somewhere
Read uplifting books and websites. Associate with people and things that will lift you up. Read motivational stories about people who have succeeded in doing what you’re now trying to do and see how you can learn from them. Listen to uplifting music. Wherever you can get inspiration from, get it!
Break it down
A lot of the time, people feel overwhelmed because their goals might seem so far away. Do you want to lose 100 pounds? Why don’t you break it down? Start with five pounds first. It might seem small but once you’ve achieved that seemingly small goal, you’re motivated to lose more. Break your big goals into little achievable ones and you’ll be there in no time.
No one really wants to be seen as lazy or bad in front of other people. This is why we recommend that you tell someone or some people about your plans. That way, even if you’re no longer motivated to continue, the fact that you don’t want anyone laughing at you or talking about you should be enough motivation for you to continue. Tell them on social media, tell them on the phone, tell them in person…just tell them!
When you stumble, be good to yourself
Failure is a huge part of life. It’s easy to beat yourself up or give up whenever you make a mistake or do something you should not have done. But this does not help you in any way. Instead, why don’t you just accept that this is part of the experience and keep it moving?
Compare yourself to yourself (and not to other people)
It’s easy to be fooled by the things we see on social media or the things that people choose to show us. Newsflash! No one is going to show you their struggles on social media. People will only put their best foot forward or let you see what it is they want you to see. So, why would you even compare your struggles to that? Yes, it is good to draw inspiration from other people. But you will be doing yourself a huge disservice if you think that because Chioma from Instagram makes N1million a month, you’re a failure for not doing so too. Instead, think about how far you have come, and let that be your source of motivation.
Did we miss anything? How do you stay motivated? Let us know!